How To Stay Safe When Looking For A Disciplinarian

The number one rule is “Saftey First.”
When you start looking for a Disciplinarian to help you, it can be a very daunting task, where do you start your quest?
The obvious choice is the internet, of course, but this is full of danger, not everybody is genuine or who they say they are. Social media websites are full of people who claim to be this and that but often they are daydreamers looking for a cheap frill or worse they are dangerous predators. You have to take your time and not rush into meeting the first person who offers to give you a good spanking. There are genuine people on these social media websites, but they can be hard to find.
A professional disciplinarian may use social media websites for advertising their services and point you towards their website, which will be full of information about the service that they offer.
A good indicator of a genuine disciplinarian is that they have a website which they pay for and not a freebie piggybacked on a service that offers free sites to anyone with an email address and if need be the authorities can trace the owner of the website.
Don’t be rushed into meeting someone, take your time ask questions if they won’t give you answers walk away from them.
Arrange to meet for the first time in a public place such as a coffee shop or bar, do not meet up in a car park or go to their home.
Please do not give out your home address; there is no need for them to have your address.

If they are asking you to pay their travel fees in advance, this is a reasonable request, but be careful. Suggest a payment method such as PayPal or if they want a bank transfer make sure you have the details to check this new banking rules coming into place in the UK are going to allow you to verify the person who you are sending money. A professional disciplinarian should have no qualms about proving their identity.
When paying their fees to suggest a payment method like PayPal, bank transfer or card payment till you get to know them, a genuine professional will not mind.

Ask them if they will verify their identity when you meet by showing you their driving licence or passport if they won’t prove who they say they then walk away.
Don’t be surprised if they can not give you details of previous clients who you can contact for a reference, most clients will want to keep their association secret, and I am sure you will also want your privacy respected the same way.
During your first meeting, discuss your issues and agree on a plan, set out in black and white what you want and do not want. Discuss the types of punishments you will receive, the level of nudity that is acceptable to you.
A good disciplinarian will respect all your limits, and at this point in your relationship, you are the one who is still in control.
Only when you are satisfied and have everything in writing e should you give your consent to be physically punished.
For the first punishment meeting at least I suggest you have it somewhere like a busy hotel for added safety no predator is going to want to draw attention to himself in a busy hotel with CTV camera and lots of people. A genuine person will have no problem being on CTV, and in public, they are doing nothing wrong.

Above is not a comprehensive list of do’s and dont’s but it is a starting place.
Trust your gut instinct about a person and do not be coerced into anything you are uncomfortable doing.

A professional disciplinarian will earn your trust by their actions.